Is there something in your life that you are avoiding?
Too many times, we like to place blame somewhere for why we aren’t doing the thing(s) we know we should be. Instead of blame, you have to decide that it’s okay to admit that it’s hard. Why? Because it is. For all of us.
You may look at all of the posts on this blog and think, “writing is easy for him.” No. I’ve made commitments, achieved some goals, not achieved others, and made new commitments. It’s not easy. And luck is nowhere to be seen.
I acknowledge that it is hard. Then I work on it.
If you’re 30 pounds overweight, you commit to losing 30 pounds and you only lose 10, are you a failure?
Unless, you decide that you are, blame something external and go back to your old habits.
I’m reading The Writers IdeaBook, how to develop great ideas for fiction, nonfiction, poetry and screenplays. Okay…reading may not be the best way to describe it. This book is both a lesson on developing your own ideas and a series of writing prompts (over 400) to help the reader become a better writer. It’s the series of prompts that make the book unique, and also less of a read than a long-term commitment.
Tonight’s prompt is “Acknowledge that writing is hard. Write it down. Then write about how your going to make writing happen.”
I think this will work with anything, including that thing you are struggling with right now.
So go ahead, write it down.
Grab a blank sheet of paper, and write it down.
Certification is hard
Exercise is hard
Love is hard
Eating right is hard
Writing is hard
________ is hard
Which one is it for you?
For writing, the next suggestion is to find a time every day to write. 30 minutes, 15 minutes, even 5 minutes. The goal is to just write. If you can’t, okay. But, you can’t do anything else for that 15 minutes.
For other goals, it can be the same. Start with a short block of time. Set it aside and commit to it.
So, step two: go ahead and write it down.
I will take 15 minutes every day and work on my certification study
I will take 15 minutes every day and do 4 basic exercises
I will take 15 minutes every day and do something nice for the one I love (be specific)
I will take 15 minutes every day and prepare a proper meal instead of fast food
I will take 15 minutes every day and write something from one of the prompts in my book
Can you do that?
No…will you do that?
Better yet…Do that now!
Ok, you have your acknowledgement and your commitment. What’s next?
Write down the how.
I will use my certification exam prep book, and work on the practice questions.
I will start with 10 push-ups, 10 set-ups, 10 lunges and 10 arm curls.
I will take 15 minutes in my office after work and write something from one of my prompts.
Acknowledge, commit and plan. Now what?
Follow through. (somewhere someone is pressing an Easy Button)
Really though, stick with it. Just those few minutes each day. If you miss a day, don’t beat yourself up, or try to make up the time. Just go to the next day and keep that commitment.
Make a note of where you are today, and compare that to where you are in 30 days. When you see that progress, look at where you are and decide on the next commitment.
It doesn’t matter what goal you are avoiding, it is hard. Admit it. Acknowledge that it is hard, and you can get past that excuse and move on toward the next success.