If you like me, I’ll like you


Recently, I received requests from two people I know to write them recommendations on their LinkedIn profiles. My first thought was, “I haven’t done one of those in a while, and I’d be glad to.”

It was a couple of days before I went back to do it, and I noticed something interesting. When I went to their profiles, I noticed that they had both written recommendations recently on mutual friends. As I looked at the timeline, it went something like this.

1. Ask for recommendation
2. Get recommendation
3. Write recommendation in return

If you’re struggling to get recommendations, why not write the “return” recommendation first? After all, if you feel that way about them it should be natural for you to simply write the recommendation. Then a bit later you can ask them to reciprocate.

Added bonus: writing recommendations can be difficult, and doing so well is a great skill to have. Write as many as you can, and you’ll keep getting better at it. Of course, only write what is true – and only accept recommendations that are true about you. The last thing you want in an interview is to have the employer say, “I saw on your LinkedIn profile where John Smith recommended you based on your recent internship at NASA.”

You’ll probably find that the recommendations you receive are written better, because you’ve done something nice for them first.

Now that I’ve given you some good advice, please like me…


  1. As a new member of linkedin.com I am finding the website user friendly. I hope it will help make more contacts in my field when I graduate college. Any suggestions on how to search for potential connections?

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